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Weigh the Odds. Decide if bullying is worth getting in trouble, possibly hurting yourself or others and turning people away from you for a long time. Chances are, you just want to make a point, but it's probably not worth the price and you likely won't get what you want.
Put yourself in their shoes. As hard as it is, try and understand what it would be like for others to be mean and nasty to you, and to be unable to defend yourself. If you can even slightly identify with the feelings of a victim, it won't be long before you stop.
Appreciate People's Differences. Instead of picking on people for being different, use it as an opportunity to learn new things. Ask children who are different from you about their background, beliefs, favourite foods and music - they might introduce you to something new to enjoy.
Temper Triggers. Learn to recognize your 'temper triggers.' When someone pushes the wrong button, just take a deep breath and walk away. That way YOU are the one in control of the situation.
Cool Down. Try not to act out in anger. When you are upset, give yourself time to cool off. Go for a walk. Call a family member. Listen to some music. Think of something that makes you feel good.
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Express Things Differently. Channel your energy by doing something active or creative. Sports are fun, challenging and a great way to learn how to get along with other kids; writing, painting or drawing can make you feel a whole lot better. Try sharing your thoughts on paper with someone you trust.
It's Not Funny! You might think that being mean to other kids is funny because others are watching and laughing. Know that they're watching and laughing because they're frightened of you. It's really not funny at all.
Get some advice. Know that it's okay to be angry and upset, but it's not okay to take it out on people. When you feel angry, try talking to a grown up or friend you trust instead or call Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868.
Learn to Get Along. Talk to your parent or teacher about helping you find ways to get along with other children. Your school library might have books or games to help you learn how to get along with others and start enjoying life.
Be a Real Leader. You're already a leader, because other people often watch you pick on others. Instead of being mean and nasty, set a real example by being kind and respectful of other kids. Think of how good you'll feel when others follow your lead.
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